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Maybe We Should Ban Inter Racial Marriage Too?

The issue of gay marriage really isn't an issue at all.

As I was reading an article indicating the Supreme Court will take up the issue of gay marriage, I kept asking myself why and who cares. Does it matter who loves whom? Should not all Americans have certain unalienable rights such as life liberty and the pursuit of happiness?

I have met lots of people who favor the marriage between two men or two women. Then there are those who tell me they have lots of gay friends and do not hate gays, yet they are against them marrying. I am not sure how you can say you are okay with your friends living together as partners and not okay with them married. Then there is the other group that is just against it, but why?

As a former classroom teacher, current events, such as this, often came up. I encouraged students to discuss these topics, but to do so with strong arguments, not just opinions. The groups that tend to be against gay marriage mostly falls into two areas. One, they were simply against the thought of displays of affection, or more pointed, bedroom acts, and two, they said it is against the teachings of the Bible.

When looking at the first argument, why are you sitting there thinking about it. "What do you want to do today?" "Oh I am going to think about two men (or women) getting it on." Really, is that how you spend your days, worrying about what two people are doing in their bedroom? That is just weird. Your argument against marriage is due to homophobia.  Because of this, maybe we should make being a doctor illegal because of iatrophobia. All you iatrophobics out there, do not worry, a movement should start soon.

To resolve the issue above, let me tell you a story. Several years back. my wife and I took a trip to Minnesota with a good friend and his partner. At one point in my trip, my friend and his partner were, making out. After an uncomfortable mile, I spoke up and asked that they stop. I do not care who you are, heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, whatever-sexual, DO NOT MAKE OUT IN THE BACK OF MY CAR! Seriously, I do not need to, or want to see it. As far as I am concerned it is like watching my parents putting on a display of heavy affection. I will expand this and say in all public places. I love my wife, but I do not need to mack on her in a public place to prove it. We talked; she feels the same. We are not against two people loving each other. Go ahead, just do so in private.

Then there is religion. If you are against it because the Bible says it is wrong, please ask yourself this. Do you go to church weekly? Do you read the Bible on a regular basis? Do you truly live by the teachings of the Bible or are you one of those who attends church twice a year and calls yourself a true Christian? If you are the later, please do not use this argument. You are using that argument as an excuse to really address your feelings. If you are the former, I can understand your position.

The other part of the religious argument is the one we must address. It is probably at the heart of the issue. It is the issue of the separation between church and state. Who is making the laws, the church? Those days ended with Roger Williams and Rhode Island. Do not use a biblical argument to overturn state laws. Do not use biblical arguments to create federal laws. It is for this reason I feel the Supreme Court has only one path to take. Marriage can no longer be defined as one man and one women, but rather the union between two loving people who want to commit themselves to the other person for their life. 

It used to be illegal for different races to marry. We realized that was due to unjust fear. Let us put our fears aside, address the law from a non-religious point of view and understand this may not be resolved in the upcoming Supreme Court ruling, but gay marriage will be sanctioned in the future.

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Common Sense Conservative December 13, 2012 at 05:17 AM
@Lyle Ruble... Scandinavian countries approved same-sex marriage 10 years ago and the impact on marriage has been devastating. Since legalization, the out-of-wedlock birthrates and the divorce rates have risen sharply. In Sweden, the divorce rate among gay men is 50 percent higher than the heterosexual divorce rate. For lesbian women, the divorce rate is 170 percent higher. The effect of these divorces is significant. These high rates of divorce lower cultural esteem for marriage. Worse, gay marriage separates marriage from parenting. It says that marriage is about adult desires, not the needs of children. Scandinavians are buying that message, and marriage is in a steep decline, as is child well-being.
Lyle Ruble December 13, 2012 at 12:11 PM
@Dave...Your citing Scandinavian cultural practices is interesting, but doesn't really prove anything. The four nations making up this region have seen a decline in traditional marriage for decades. This parallels the same trends that are found in other first tier nations. In Scandinavia, children's welfare is guaranteed by the state minimizing the financial impact on children. Therefore, relationship stability doesn't have quite the devastating impact that we experience in this nation. My close friends living in the region are not bothered by the nature of the relationships, especially since it actually impacts so few individuals. Citizens have decided that the assault to individual human rights far outweigh any social costs incurred.
Common Sense Conservative December 13, 2012 at 12:58 PM
"Citizens have decided that the assault to individual human rights far outweigh any social costs incurred." There are two problems with this. First, laws have already been established defining certain conditions under which people may marry. The would be spouse must be an adult, cannot already be married to another, cannot be closely related to the person he or she is marrying, and they must marry another human. In other words, restrictions have always existed. No one has ever been able to marry anyone simply because they loved them. Second, many civil rights leaders, including Rev. Jesse Jackson, have rejected the comparison between the fight for same-sex marriage and the fight for civil rights. As Jackson said, “Gays were never declared 3/5 human by the Constitution, and they never needed a Voting Rights Act.”
Common Sense Conservative December 13, 2012 at 12:59 PM
The "social costs" you're so quick to dismiss are important. Exparementing with the well-being of childeren is wrong on so many levels. Thousands of conclusive social science, medical, and psychological investigations published in hundreds of professional journals have shown that children without fathers are half as likely to do well in and graduate from school; they are more likely to require professional attention for physical or emotional problems; they are at an elevated risk for physical abuse or death; they are less likely to develop empathy for others; they are less confident; and they are more likely to spend time in jail and have children out of wedlock. All things being equal, children raised apart from their fathers—even if that father is replaced by another loving parent figure suffer serious declines in every important measure of well-being. Let us be clear: A good, compassionate and just society always comes to the aid of fatherless or motherless children. But a good, compassionate, and just society never intentionally creates fatherless and motherless children.
Common Sense Conservative December 13, 2012 at 12:59 PM
Fathers matter as male parents, not just as a second set of unisex hands to chip in with the housework and childrearing. Child psychologists for 40 years have been telling us how mothers and fathers parent differently, and how healthy child development demands this difference. Fathering scholar Dr. Kyle Pruett of Yale Medical School says dads matter simply because “fathers do not mother.” Psychology Today explains, “Fatherhood turns out to be a complex and unique phenomenon with huge consequences for the emotional and intellectual growth of children.” A scientific review of more than 100 published studies on the benefits of child-parent relationships found that “overall, father love appears to be as heavily implicated as mother love in offspring’s psychological well-being and health.” Very simply, the same-sex family is problematic because same-sex families intentionally deprive a child of either a mother or a father just because adults want it that way.

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